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Sample Vow Renewal Ceremonies

17 Jul

There are a lot of guides for how to do a wedding ceremony online, but there actually aren’t very many for vow renewals. Of course all one has to do is follow a wedding ceremony and swap some words around, but I find it helpful to read the wording of the ceremonies other people have done to get an idea for the feel of mine. Here are a couple I have done. Some of each are original and some of each are stolen from other ceremonies. Feel free to steal whatever you like from either example. In the second example, most of the work is mine, so if you feel weird about stealing from unknown parties, the second example is safer.

This first one is strictly secular, with lots of family members participating:

WELCOME

Welcome family, friends, and loved ones. We gather here today to celebrate the marriage of GROOM and BRIDE. Twenty years ago today, many of us here gathered together to share in the formal commitment they made to one another, to offer our love and support to their union, and to help GROOM and BRIDE start their married life together surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them. Today we are gathered for the same reason; we will also help them celebrate the memory of all those years, and to celebrate their decision to reaffirm their commitment to one another. We celebrate, as well, the legacy of their marriage–NAMES OF CHILDREN HERE. So welcome to one and all, who have traveled from near and far. BRIDE and GROOM thank you for your presence here today, and now ask for your blessing, encouragement, and continued support for their marriage.

 

ADDRESS

Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships. No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that – through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, through helping and supporting and believing in each other; through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences, learning to make the important things matter, and learning to let go of the rest. What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you made to continue to stand together as lifemates and partners.

No marriage is perfect. As you continue in yours, you already know that it will take a lot of love, hard work, and dedication to make your relationship an ongoing success. As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this advice:

Let your love be stronger than your anger
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.
Look for the best in your partner rather than the worst.
Confide in each other and ask for help when you need it.
Never take one another for granted
And remember to say “I love you” every day

 

READING BY OLDEST CHILD

Officiant: I will now ask the couple’s eldest CHILD, NAME, to give a personal reading for HIS/HER parents.

 

CANDLE LIGHTING FOR LOST LOVED ONES

Officiant: Thomas Campbell once said, “To live in the hearts of those we love is never to die.” Therefore, at this time we remember NAMES OF LOVED ONES, who have passed on. Though they cannot be with us physically, we acknowledge that they are here in spirit sharing in our joy. The light of their memory can never be extinguished in the hearts of those who loved them.

(This last line is your cue to light the candles in their memory.)

 

READING BY FAMILY MEMBER

Officiant: BRIDE and GROOM have learned many things over the course of their marriage. There have been many things they have done and seen and heard and read which have resonated with them, and they would like to share one such passage with you today. I will now ask NAME/RELATION to read TITLE from SOURCE.

 

VOWS

Officiant: We now come to the part of the ceremony that holds the greatest significance for BRIDE AND GROOM–the vows. A vow is a sacred promise. The most valuable possession you could ever give another person is your word.

GROOM AND BRIDE, you have each kept faithfully to the promises you made to each other when you committed yourselves to this marriage twenty years ago. You have never forgotten the promises you made, and if we return to this spot twenty years hence, those promises will be remembered still. Today, BRIDE and GROOM have decided to recommit themselves to their marriage with promises both new and old, and have written personal vows they would now like to express to one another.

GROOM, what promises do you make?

[GROOM’S VOWS]

BRIDE, what promises do you make?

[BRIDE’S VOWS]

Officiant: Do you both, before these witnesses, pledge to do all in your power to continue to make this a happy and enduring union?

BRIDE AND GROOM: We do.

 

READING BY CHILD OR FAMILY MEMBER

Officiant: As we reflect on the importance of love and faith, I will now ask NAME/RELATION to contribute a reading from SOURCE.

 

RINGS

Twenty years ago, GROOM AND BRIDE chose rings as an outward symbol of the commitment they made to each other.

From earliest times, the ring has been a symbol of wedded love. It is an unbroken and never-ending circle which symbolizes a commitment to love that is also never ending. Today we will ask them to reaffirm the promises they made to each other the first time they exchanged rings.

Do you, BRIDE, affirm your wish to keep this man, GROOM, as your husband — to continue to join with him in matrimony — offering your friendship and loving care — cherishing and respecting him, loving and embracing him in times of adversity and in times of joy? If so, answer now, “I do.”

Please repeat after me: (GENERALLY THIS IS ONLY DONE IF EXCHANGING NEW RINGS)

With this ring / I thee wed. / Take it as a sign / of my everlasting / and unconditional love / with all that I am / and all that I have / from this day forward / as your wife.

Do you GROOM, affirm your wish to keep this woman , BRIDE, as your wife — to continue to join with her in matrimony — offering your friendship and loving care – cherishing and respecting her, loving and embracing her in times of adversity and times of joy? If so, answer now, “I do.”

Please repeat after me: (IF EXCHANGING NEW RINGS)

With this ring / I thee wed. / Take it as a sign / of my everlasting / and unconditional love / with all that I am / and all that I have / from this day forward / as your husband.

Love freely given has no giver and no receiver. You are each the giver and each the receiver. The wedding ring is a symbol, in visible form, of the unbroken circle of your love, so that wherever you go, you may always return to your shared life together. May these rings always call to mind the power of your love.

 

FAMILY MEMBER READING

Officiant: BRIDE and GROOM, we have all come together today to witness the reaffirmation of your love. NAME has been a friend of your family for these past twenty years, and would like to contribute to your happiness today by reading TITLE from SOURCE.

 

PRONOUNCEMENT

GROOM and BRIDE, in the presence of your family and friends who have joined you to share this moment of joy, you have declared your deep love and affection for each other. You have reaffirmed your wish to live together, always open to a deeper, richer friendship and partnership. You have formed your union, based on respect and honor. Therefore, it is my joyful responsibility to officially re-acknowledge your union as “Husband and Wife.” You may now seal your marriage with a kiss.

 

FINAL BLESSING

May the glory which rests upon all who love you, bless you and keep you, and fill you with happiness and a gracious spirit. Despite the changes of fortune and time, may that which is noble and lovely and true remain abundantly in your hearts, giving you strength for all that lies ahead.

 

INTRODUCTION

Ladies and Gentlemen, it is my privilege to present to you Mr. and Mrs. GROOM and BRIDE SURNAME!

 

Here is the second ceremony. There is some God crap in it, but usually couples getting married or remarried like some bible thrown in. I mean they’re paying me, I guess I can toss some in:

 

WELCOME

Family and friends, we have gathered here today to joyfully acknowledge the vow renewal of GROOM and BRIDE, on this day, the tenth anniversary of their marriage. They have requested your presence on this memorable occasion in order that you might share with them the pledging of their everlasting love on this day of re-commitment. GROOM and BRIDE thank you for your presence here today, and ask for your blessings and well wishes for the continued success of their marriage. We come together today not to mark the start of a relationship, but to recognize a bond that already exists. This marriage is one expression of the many varieties of love, though its expressions are infinite.

 

ADDRESS

It is fitting to speak briefly about love. We live in a world of joy and fear and search for meaning and strength in the seeming disorder.  We discover the truest guideline to our quest when we realize love in all its magnitudes. Love is the eternal force of life. Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage. The giving of our self in love is difficult, for you must learn to give your love without the knowledge of whether or not it will be cherished. When love culminates in marriage, the risk is proved worthy by the reward. Therefore, in your giving, give your joy, your sadness, your interest, your understanding, your knowledge – all expressions that make up a life.

GROOM and BRIDE, for ten years you have traveled together along the road of marriage. Together, you have laughed and cried, been sick and well, been happy and angry, and have shared and grown. You have undertaken the ultimate test of love by bringing two beautiful daughters into the world, NAME and NAME. All of these things are the core of your marriage and why you are here today.  It has taken trust to know in your hearts that you truly want the best for each other.  It has taken dedication to stay open and honest with one another.  It has taken faith to go forward together without knowing exactly what the future will bring.  And it has taken commitment to hold true to the journey you both promised to share together on this day ten years ago.  An intimate and secure relationship is not based on promises, but rather on trust, respect, faithfulness, and the ability to forgive. A lasting marriage is based on all of these, bound together by love.

 

READING FROM THE BOOK OF RUTH

Ten years ago today, GROOM and BRIDE made a vow to each other to have and to hold, to help and to support, and to love and to cherish each other on that first day of marriage, and for every day thereafter, for the rest of the days of their lives. At their wedding on that day, they had a reading from the Book of Ruth. I would like to read it to you all now, to remind GROOM and BRIDE before they reaffirm their vows, and indeed all who are gathered here, about the value of loyalty and of love.

“When Naomi heard in Moab that the Lord had come to the aid of his people by providing food for them, she and her daughters-in-law prepared to return home from there. With her two daughters-in-law she left the place where she had been living and set out on the road that would take them back to the land of Judah.

Then Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, “Go back, each of you, to your mother’s home. May the Lord show you kindness, as you have shown kindness to your dead husbands and to me.  May the Lord grant that each of you will find rest in the home of another husband.” Then she kissed them goodbye and they wept aloud and said to her, “We will go back with you to your people.”

But Naomi said, “Return home, my daughters. Why would you come with me? Am I going to have any more sons, who could become your husbands?  Return home, my daughters; I am too old to have another husband. Even if I thought there was still hope for me—even if I had a husband tonight and then gave birth to sons— would you wait until they grew up? Would you remain unmarried for them? No, my daughters, it is more bitter for me than for you, because the Lord’s hand has turned against me!”

At this they wept aloud again. Then Orpah kissed her mother-in-law goodbye, but Ruth clung to her. “Look,” said Naomi, “your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her.”

But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.  Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.”

 

VOWS

As I’m sure you’ve learned over the past ten years, marriage is not a legal document. No judge or pastor or justice of the peace can perform a marriage because a marriage, truly, is nothing except the promises made and kept between two individuals. Today GROOM and BRIDE stand before us in a desire to publicly declare their love and to share with us their renewed marriage promises.

Officiant: GROOM, what promises do you make? (hands him his card to read from)

BRIDE, from the moment I first saw you, I knew you were the one I wanted to share my life with. Your beauty, heart, and mind inspire me to be the best person I can be. Ten years ago, I promised to love you for eternity, to respect you, honor you, be faithful to you, and share my life with you. This was my solemn vow then, and I make it to you again today. Let me be the shoulder you lean on, your friend, your lover, and your confidante. With you I will walk my path from this day forward.

Officiant: BRIDE, what promises do you make? (hands her a card to read from)

My dearest husband, as we stand here today, I think back to all the wonderful memories we have shared. There is no greater feeling in life than to have your best friend by your side every day. Though we have had our struggles, our love has been strong enough to conquer it all. I am thankful for you being in my life each and every day. You make every day on earth a day worth waking up for. My wish today is that as we say these renewals, you, my love, will once again say “I do”. For you I give my heart, my soul, and my mind every second of every day. I take you today not only as my husband yet again, but as my best friend, my confidante, my shoulder to cry on, and the person whose arms I could not picture being without. Today I pledge to be by your side, to be understanding, and to keep being the wife you deserve. I have been blessed for the last ten years and I am thrilled that I get to spend the rest of my life with you. I love you.

Officiant: Do you both, before these witnesses, pledge to do all in your power to continue to make this a happy and enduring union?

GROOM and BRIDE reply: We do.

 

SAND CEREMONY

Today GROOM and BRIDE have chosen to commemorate their marriage on this, their tenth wedding anniversary, through the celebration of the sand ceremony. This ceremony symbolizes the inseparable union of GROOM and BRIDE into an eternal marital relationship. Their beautiful daughters, NAMES, will also participate in the ceremony in order to celebrate the union of the couple into a family of four. GROOM, BRIDE, and the children will pour separate containers of sand into a common vessel. When they pour their separate containers of sand into the vessel, the family will be creating a memento for the future that will, every time they see it, remind them that no matter where they are or what may happen to them, they will always have each other to count on as long as they all may live.

GROOM and BRIDE have chosen the following passage from I Corinthians in order to underline what their marriage means to them. The family will take turns pouring their sand individually, and then at the end of the passage they will all pour together.

Love is patient, love is kind. [GROOM pours one of three colors–say white]

It is not jealous, it is not pompous, [BRIDE pours one of three colors–say red]

It is not inflated, it is not rude, [girls pour one of three colors–say yellow]

It does not seek its own interests, [GROOM pours white sand]

It is not quick-tempered, it does not brood, [BRIDE pours red sand]

It does not rejoice over wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. [girls pour yellow sand]

It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails. [all pour until vessel is filled]

GROOM, BRIDE, CHILD, AND CHILD, just as the grains of sand can never be separated into their individual containers again, so will your family be unified together, never again separate and alone.

 

RINGS

Ten years ago, GROOM and BRIDE chose rings as an outward symbol of the commitment they made to each other. From earliest times, the ring has been a symbol of wedded love. It is an unbroken and never-ending circle which symbolizes a commitment to love that is also never ending. Today we will ask them to reaffirm the promises they made to each other the first time they exchanged rings.

(NO NEW RINGS ARE BEING EXCHANGED, SO WE WILL DO THE SHORTENED VERSION OF THE CEREMONY; SEE ABOVE FOR FULL CEREMONY)

Do you GROOM, affirm your wish to keep this woman, BRIDE, as your wife — to continue to join with her in matrimony — offering your friendship and loving care – cherishing and respecting her, loving and embracing her in times of adversity and times of joy? If so, answer now, “I do.”

Do you, BRIDE, affirm your wish to keep this man, GROOM, as your husband — to continue to join with him in matrimony — offering your friendship and loving care — cherishing and respecting him, loving and embracing him in times of adversity and in times of joy? If so, answer now, “I do.”

Love freely given has no giver and no receiver. You are each the giver and each the receiver. The wedding ring is a symbol, in visible form, of the unbroken circle of your love, so that wherever you go, you may always return to your shared life together. May these rings always call to mind the power of your love.

 

PRONOUNCEMENT

GROOM and BRIDE, in the presence of your family and friends who have joined you to share this moment of joy, you have declared your deep love and affection for each other. You have reaffirmed your wish to live together, always open to a deeper, richer friendship and partnership. You have formed your union, based on respect and honor. Therefore, it is my joyful responsibility to officially reacknowledge your union as “Husband and Wife.” You may now seal your marriage with a kiss.

 

FINAL BLESSING

GROOM and BRIDE, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, may it be the love that brought you here today.  It is only love which can make it a glorious union, and by love which your marriage shall endure.  May you be a blessing and comfort to each other, sharers of each other’s dreams, conscience of each other’s sorrows, and helpers to each other in all of life’s challenges.  May you encourage each other in whatever you set out to achieve.  May you trust each other, trust life and be unafraid.  May you love each other and offer love and support to those around you.  May your marriage bring you all the happiness a marriage should bring, and may life grant you patience, tolerance, and understanding.

 

INTRODUCTION

Ladies and Gentlemen, it is my privilege to present to you Mr. and Mrs. GROOM and BRIDE SURNAME!

 

And that’s all, folks!

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